I did hope to convince him it was not ok to SAY those things to small children, even if I couldn't imagine him changing his belief that they were fundamentally true. And the other person who spoke up may have hoped he would refrain from openly staring up dresses. (There are people who believe it should be ok to use good old-fashioned racist language, in its traditional "harmless" sense, but they generally don't because people yell at them so much it's not worth it.)
You're right that I can't conceive of him changing his mind and coming to believe that he doesn't live in a patriarchy. He DOES live in a patriarchy, where girls are responsible for protecting themselves from the male gaze, and where men are more or less entitled to look judgmentally at female bodies.
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Date: 2015-08-25 07:27 pm (UTC)You're right that I can't conceive of him changing his mind and coming to believe that he doesn't live in a patriarchy. He DOES live in a patriarchy, where girls are responsible for protecting themselves from the male gaze, and where men are more or less entitled to look judgmentally at female bodies.