No

[adrian_turtle]

There really is power in positive thinking. People really do have trouble with "no," beyond being assholes. I knew that. I took the defensive driving class that explained the problem with trying to steer away from a tree. (In a skid, you should steer towards the gap between the trees.)

I've interacted with small children who showed me the value of saying "walk slowly" or "touch the kitty gently," rather than "don't run" or "don't pull the kitty's fur."

Nevertheless, for some reason I didn't stop with "just trim 3 inches off the bottom." I went on to tell the hairdresser, "I don't want it tapered, and and don't even try to get all the split ends off the sides. Just 3" shorter, straight across the back, ok?"

I feel very foolish. And not just because so much of my hair is too short to go into my braid.

Comments

[sonia]

:-( In my humble opinion, an adult should be able to handle "positive (negative) positive." Especially an adult acting in a professional capacity. This sounds like plain old "don't give a shit" or boundary crashing, not your fault at all.

[redbird]

I've found that even if I say "just a trim, take off 1-3 inches" or "at most three inches" they will do more than that. (This is a large part of why I haven't had my hair trimmed in several years.)

[adrian_turtle]

I'm familiar with that. I don't know if hairdressers get so focused on cutting hair that they forget the fine art of Not Cutting Hair. I would have been ok with 4", so long as it was straight across the long part in back.

[anne]

This time, I showed the haircutter a selfie of what it looked like last time. Guess whether it worked. Go on, guess.